It is that time of year where we get excited about new opportunities and possibilities as the new calendar year begins. It feels good to shake off 2020 and breathe life into 2021. The approach to 2021 appears to have a calm feeling about it.
So, how do you begin creating the year of your dreams?
And how do you work out what you want? It is likely that you are so excited about this year and that you find you have so many options and ideas that you can’t make a decision?
You’re in decision overwhelm!
So many potential options it’s tough to know if you’re making the right choice. Sound familiar? Let me help you.
Firstly, let’s identify the difference between a New Year’s Resolution and the act of goal setting.
New Year’s Resolution, in my view, is one baby step above a wish. An intention with a vague plan.
Goal setting, however, demands a desired clear result. It requires a set of steps or a plan. And to be successful at achieving your goal, you will need to set aside a volume of time to implement the changes, and to do this, you will most certainly require a desire or a reason to want to achieve your goal. And there may be some shifts in your daily habits. Phew!
And, then you may be thinking, “what’s the point of setting goals for 2021?” after all you did this 12 months ago and then life got interrupted and so you have a little hesitancy about whether to commit for this year. Are you already setting yourself up for failure?
The thing is, without goals, you do not get to choose how you move forward. You do not get to notice your growth.
More importantly, goals are aligned with your ability to be more resilient. Having a route to travel and clear direction about where you are going makes it easier to adapt and steer through change. You can always change your route but knowing where you are going is half the battle to feel confident about your way forward.
Goals do not have to be set on the first day of each year, they can be set any day of the year. They just need a start and end date.
You will have heard the quote, “The best day to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the next best day is today.”
Importantly your goals need to feel right for you. If you’re not feeling them, you are less likely to achieve them. If you find yourself in a few weeks’ time, often around the 17th January and not yet having started your goals, then they are unlikely to be the right goals for you!
So how do you know if you are setting the right goals for you?
Firstly, dream big! Select 1 part of your dream (your goal) that you feel will help you achieve many of the other parts of your dream, then, ask yourself these 3 questions:
- How connected to my goal do I feel? Know your why!
- What will this goal cost me? (Think about the time budget you will have to set aside)
- Is this goal right for me right now? (It might be that you have too many other elements in your life that require your energy and time.) That is OK, focus on the 1 thing that will get you further forward for now.